January 2012
Is it all worth it?
COMMITMENT is not a light switch that goes from “off” to “on.” When building a relationship with someone, the level of commitment gradually increases. Commitment in a relationship is complicated in that it takes two people, and it requires an alignment of FACT (events, actions) and ATTITUDE (thoughts, beliefs) for both of them.
You Can’t Please Everybody! I’ve tried that…
WE’VE heard this cliché so many times, or is this simply the plain truth? Yup, you’re right! It is difficult, indeed, to please everyone. Each day comes with challenges. We work with people, we move around people. Interaction with others is so much inevitable. We cannot do without others in this game called life. We simply have NO CHOICE but co-exist with other human beings.
Come Forth!!!
Believe that things will work out! Follow your intuition and curiosities. Trust your heart even when it leads you off what appears to be the right path. You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary!
How should we live?
“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect, but I don’t live to be. But before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean.” – Bob Marley. What should you live for? Wealth? Power? Service? Longevity? Reason? Love? Faith? Family? God? Virtue? Happiness? Fulfillment? Comfort? Contentment? Integrity? There are hundreds to choose from.
Be knowledgeable. Not a know-it-all.
It’s all about attitude. Be it at home or anywhere, a good attitude is an asset. At the same time, a bad or worse still, a know-it-all attitude, could pose serious threats to your personal growth and alienate you in all places. While a “know-it-all” can be avoided like the plague otherwise, dealing with such an individual can become quite challenging.
“ME”
Through our lives we are conditioned into an EGOIST state of mind where we view ourselves as somehow separate from the rest of the world but at the same time the CENTER of it. It is an illusionary state in which we identify with a set of concepts, feelings, opinions, and judgments about past experiences. Then wrap it all into a big ball convince ourselves that our big ball of “nothingness” is a rock solid substantial thing, it is our own little shadow “reality” in which we root our identity, and we name it “ME”.
Sometimes it’s time… time for a change!
Each of us has a set of values, which provides a structural foundation for our life. With fundamental principles such as “integrity,” “honor,” “providence” and “kindness,” many details of day-to-day living come into proper perspective. I reflect and recall the times when I made decisions that altered my life. Deciding on family issues, a job, and business, or journey. Some of these decisions have led to ‘happiness,’ some to ‘sadness.’ Others, thought major at the time, appear insignificant in later life. Numerous I thought difficult; several I barely recognised, yet turned out to be central.